"the curious paradox is that when I can accept myself
just as I am then I can change" Carl Rogers
Feeling stuck? In pain?
Life just not quite how you want it to be?
Can't relax? Caught in something and not quite sure what?
A sense this could be easier? Struggling to function day to day?
Feeling like no one hears what its like to be you?
I am fascinated by our whole self, the ability our body and mind have to work together, to communicate to us when something in our whole system needs us to attend to it, giving us the chance to explore what that might be, spend time with it, experience it, be curious about it.
As a person-centred therapist my role is to come alongside you, build a therapeutic relationship with you where you will feel held, while you go on this exploration of self (talk about whatever is going on for you in the moment). I won’t judge you or tell you what to do. I will be by your side as you explore what ever it is you want to. This experiencing of self in the moment and exploration of what is going on in our lives brings things into our awareness, creates shifts, and in turn space for the new.
Read on if you want to find out more....
We all have times in our lives when our feelings, emotions and life experiences can become overwhelming, or at the very least can impact our everyday lives. As the client only you know how that feels for you. Counselling provides a space where you can explore how you are feeling, without judgement and others telling you what to do.
The counselling relationship, a therapeutic space, can be just the place to notice those prompts, hear the physical pain, give voice to our inner feelings, help shift something, unstick something and create some space inside for something new.
It is a safe space to be with whatever is present in us at the moment, a place to puzzle things out, be curious, and experience your feelings, and explore their meaning, finding a way forward with less to carry, a load lightened.
I am interested in us as human beings being born with and having the potential to do what ever it is that we want to in life, and then the effects our life experiences have on our ability to live our lives to the full.
I like to meet and see you the person rather than the labels that I believe as a society we too readily put on each other. I am interested in your story and what it means to be you.
We are shaped and formed through our experiences. Trying to find our way through life, often how others would like us to, creating an externally formed self. Our true self and this external self often rubbing up against each other, creating an internal conflict. Living life for others rather than our selves.
"People are just as wonderful as sunsets if I can let them be.... when I look at a sunset I don't find myself saying "soften the orange a bit on the right hand corner", I don't try and control the sunset. I watch in awe as it unfolds". Carl Rogers.
Sometimes the hardest thing is to give our selves permission to just be, and to accept our self for who we are.
Life is a process, our process, that we continue to live. If we can try and find a way to carry less we can be more able to engage with that process, and learn from it and find a way to live it through our own eyes and perspective rather than others.
We all have a life story full of events and experiences that determine our actions, often doing things to please others, losing sight of what feels right for us. If we can stop, look at and explore our experiences and feelings, noticing what ever emerges, untangle the knots we may feel inside, we can start to find a way forward that feels right. Putting down that which we no longer need to carry, and find, become the person we naturally are.
If this sounds interesting and you would like to find out more do contact me.