Search
  • jennrivett

It’s what happens next....

I was just looking at this bean I have sown and it made me think of Carl Rogers person-centred theory ... of the seed growing, and given an environment of light, warmth, food it can grow fully, move towards, the bean it is going to be. I often think of that analagy, of us human beings being born, and growing in our environment and how we are shaped and formed by that environment, by society, education and all those experiences we have, for me it’s like being clipped in to a bonsai tree ... and here I am now in my 50’s trying to find the sunflower I feel inside that is wanting to burst out ... so this has led me to think again about feelings and why why as a society do we continue to label our children as they try to grow into whatever flower they truly are ... they need to see it’s ok to feel, to feel anger, sadness, rage, confusion, fear, etc etc ... there are ok , they are natural human responses to our environment and our experiences... so let’s just come alongside them , be with them whilst the feeling is present , say its ok ... this is a totally understandable response to the experience we are having , it may be pain ful, it may hurt and we may want to stamp our feet, throw something, cry ... it will pass and it if It comes back it will pass again ... it’s ok ... why do we label this, teach children there is something wrong with them, tell them to suppress these feelings ... what are we doing to this generation and what problems are we storing up for the future... I feel very ranty here and would like to find a way to express my thoughts in a calmer more measured way ... something for me to work on ...